Every so often I come across a person who seems to be having difficulty “getting there.” Maybe they aren’t seeing anything or feeling anything and they just don’t feel like it’s working. I know this feeling ALL TOO WELL. I can empathize because I’ve been there.
Often when we find ourselves in this situation, we begin to get frustrated. We might try a little harder, but if still no success, we escalate that frustration to the point where we eventually abandon the session. In my very first past life regression session for myself, I got to the place I later began to call the “purple.” It seemed that no matter how hard I tried, I kept finding myself back in the dreaded purple. In actuality, it wasn’t dreadful at all, but I was so discouraged that those around me had these amazing stories to tell about their past-life visits and I had the fu#%king colour purple. I was mad.
Each time I attempted a session, I would begin to have anxiety about whether it would work for me – in essence, allowing my own self-talk to condition me to believe that I was incapable of getting there. Luckily, I had the awareness to catch myself doing it and I began to set the intention prior to my sessions to be successful. I pictured myself successful, which for me meant really feeling it.
We all know what success feels like, because presumably, we’ve been successful at something in our life.
So it didn’t matter that I hadn’t had success with this particular task, I just needed to channel a past feeling of success. It also helped that I wanted it badly. Eventually it worked. I was able to push through the purple and have one of the most profound experiences of my life.
Generally, the tendency is to give up and/or make excuses: “I’m just one of those people who this doesn’t work for,” or “I’m just too analytical for this.” (Both totally untrue, but in fairness I wore that second one like a badge of honour for a while.) I want you to consider though, what worthwhile journey ever happened effortlessly or comfortably? Take a second and think about that. If you look back at some of your greatest accomplishments, would you say that they came easily? If you had to give them up because you chose to quit or made excuses back then, would you be happy with that? If I would have given up on my own past life/inter-life journeys, would I be facilitating these profound experiences for others right now? Not likely, or at minimum, not well.
I like to believe that those difficulties were preparing me to help others just like me through their own challenges. It’s one thing to tell someone that they can be successful and encourage them through it, but it’s another thing entirely to encourage from a place of experience. If I hadn’t gone through that myself, would I truly be able to empathize with my clients going through the same thing? I liken it to telling someone the stovetop is hot, versus actually touching it and getting burned. Two VERY different experiences.
Like any other skill to be learned, hypnosis gets better with practice.
Each time you go into hypnosis, your brain creates neural pathways – a fancy term to say brain highways – that get stronger and stronger. It’s like creating a new path to the beach through a forest. Each time you walk through the path, the underbrush gets trampled, and perhaps you cut away the branches that scratch you as you go by. Before you know it, after a few trips to the beach, the path is clear and you no longer have to question which direction you are going or protect your eyes from stray branches; you know straight where to go and you’ll have a safe trip there. Practicing hypnosis is creating this pathway. Eventually, your brain will travel the path its been creating and take you there quickly and efficiently. Try not to allow yourself to get into the loop of “this just doesn’t work for me,” when in fact, you might just need a few more trips to the beach.
The lesson here is if you find yourself having some challenges getting into hypnosis, or in life in general, I want you to visualize your success and keep trying. It WILL work for you if you truly have the desire. I promise that the feeling of success and accomplishment that you will have when you reach your goal or the awe of the experience of a PLR or ILR session will be WORTH EVERY OUNCE OF EFFORT.
“You had the power all along, my dear.”-Glinda The Good Witch, Wizard of Oz