Fear is a very strong, primitive emotion – instinctual almost. It has so much power. It drives our behavior. It can be motivating (i.e. I need to get out of here fast or my safety is on the line!) or it can be absolutely debilitating (i.e. I can’t take action because I fear ___ ). Today, I want to discuss the non-action type of fear.
Anyone whose ever been in the very new stages of a relationship can attest to the non-action fear. Do I text back? Should I make the first move? This is fairly benign non-action because generally another emotion pops in there and stimulates action – namely love, lust, joy, etc.
Then there are other non-action fears. The ones that keep us stuck, that hold us back, that keep us in comfort zone prison:
- Fear of Failure/Success
- Fear of Rejection
- Fear of the Unknown
- Fear of Criticism
- Fear of Unworthiness
- Fear of Judgement
- Fear of Snakes (If you secretly dream about studying the rock formations in the desert, this could be a big problem!)
These are just a few, but if you happen to suffer from one of these fears, it’s unlikely that you’re going to accomplish what’s on the other side of that fear without some action. It’s science. And though we talk a lot about quantum physics now, the old Newtonian First Law of Motion still holds for this place we call earth: an object at rest will remain at rest unless acted on by another force.
Basically, nothing is going to change if you don’t take action. That includes your life.
This isn’t rocket science. We all know that problems don’t disappear on their own, but the thing is, what if you don’t know how to “solve” it?
Those quotes you read that say “Feel the fear and do it anyway!” or, “Everything you want is on the other side of fear!” are nice platitudes to share on FB and IG, but they don’t do a damn thing to help you actually get over the fear.
I personally, find those posts kind of demoralizing at times because if it was just as easy as “taking the leap!” we would have done it already. We are biologically hardwired to react to fearful things – even if those fearful things aren’t necessarily tangible, like fear of failure or fear of success.
If you’re trying to start a business but you’re constantly worried that you’re making the wrong decisions, or that you’re not experienced enough, and then you start to wonder how you’re going to pay the mortgage, you probably won’t start that business. Your fear of failure has already squashed your dream before it even had a chance to begin. Or maybe you worry that you’ll be wildly successful and then all those people who have disrespected you over your life will appear and want to take what you worked so hard to get. Either way, you have put your wants and desires in the garbage bin.
There are infinite ways we use fear to sabotage ourselves, but few long-term strategies to address the fear and get over it. This is why I advocate so much for hypnosis. This method of hyper inner focus actually works at helping us to eliminate those fears because it gets to the root of the problem.
Hypnosis says, “In order to fix this, we need to know where it came from.”
Let me tell you, these fears have some very interesting origins. Sometimes they stem from our interpretation of events as children, sometimes they’re picked up in-utero, and other times they show up in a past life. Regardless of the source, your body is energetically tuned into them and it will react with fear every time it senses that same energy. Not very conducive to getting what you want in life…
Take for example, a HUGE fear of mine that I used to have: open water. Now maybe this wasn’t causing issues in my day to day life but it was causing issues. My family likes to kayak. NOPE. Friends would invite us to go boating and swim around at the sand bars in the lake. NOPE. Once we were camping and there was a waterslide out in the lake. It wasn’t too far out, but far enough. Guess what? I didn’t want my kids to go because if I had to save them I wasn’t sure I could get in the water. I had no logical reason for fearing open water. I can swim and I have no issues with a pool.
You want to know the origin of that fear? In a past life I was tied up and thrown into – you guessed it – open water. I obviously did not survive and I carried that fear into this life.
I like to think about our fears as the “boogey-man” who you think is living under your bed and casting a scary shadow on the wall.
As a kid you would call for your parent to come in and they would turn on the light and inventory under your bed. You’d see that the scary shadow was just an orphan sock that missed the laundry and you’d feel confident to go to sleep. The scary thing wasn’t actually so scary after all once you knew its origin.
This is the same for your fears. Once you understand why they’re there, you feel confident letting them go. When fear is no longer in the way, your intuition begins to speak to you and encourages you on the path of pursuing your desires. You wake up to possibilities. You are eager and excited to see what comes next.
I want you to imagine what your life would be like if your fear didn’t exist. Really take a minute and imagine this because this is the beginning spark of action. What if you really could succeed in your business? What if you really could take a chance on a higher-level job? It’s pretty exciting when you allow yourself to imagine the possibilities.
Your dreams don’t have to stay in “dreamland.”
Surprisingly, it isn’t that scary getting over your fears. It’s actually kind of interesting. I mean in my case, who knew that something that happened in a totally different life could still be affecting me today? What could be the origin of your fear?
If you are curious about eliminating a particularly unhelpful fear in your life, please contact me and we can have a conversation about how we can work together to get rid of the fear, and get you on the path of pursuing your desires.